Love needs a Patchwork of Courage

We hope for a lot of things. Not all of it comes to us. But we also survive a lot of it until we learn that our fortitude and strength is immeasurable, our ability to survive pain is more than we imagined. Thus, we live, a day at a time. Sometimes, a lifetime in a moment at a time. 

Sometimes, no matter what you do, it will never be enough. There is no point having to push yourself all the time to prove that you love someone. Love shouldn’t be difficult. It’s the most effortless thing. It is as much about understanding as it’s about handling the misunderstanding.

The universe is wired for electricity. We’re the lamps who need to plug ourselves in.

There is strength in numbers but there is greater capacity in self-belief. That, once taken root in your heart, will strengthen your resolve for everything life will bring your way.

To find the will to be yourself and courage to drop the masks and be undone and know it will all be fine. That. That is bravery.

Life is too short to be stressing yourself over people who do not even deserve to be in your life. Identify those who suck you out of your energy. Identify those who fill your head with negativity and ‘what if’ that sound ominous. Identify those who show up only when you are celebrating but you see nowhere in sight when your rainy days begin. Don’t stress over them. Instead, look out for those who have had your back, those who helped you pull through the rough nights, the cloudy days. Look out for those who need you to patch them through. Keep them in your prayers and have their back.

When we wish to move on in life, we empty our hands, of everything we have and have been holding on to. It is only then we become truly open to receiving all that we need to be who we truly are and who we wish to be from the depths of our existence. A lot of holding back, despite saying and wanting to move on comes from being reminded of promises we made and promises we had others make to us, promises we made to ourselves in our relationships with those around us; promises, given all that goes on in our lives, that were more work-in-progress than fulfilled. Empty those hands. No longer be bound by it. Release yourself from promises you have made so far. Become who you are with intense personal growth instead, free yourself from all that has held you back. Have immense gratitude for those who held space for you to be you, guided you and worked with patience (and impatience) teaching you lessons, gifting you unexpected joy and support. Rebuild yourself and strengthen your pillars. Thank them for their patience. Give back when you are ready.

Love is knowing you are not perfect, that you will do really dumb things in life that will make no sense, annoy others and yourself, say stuff one day and mean it and not mean it the next, forgive, not forget, remember, be sad, happy, really glad. Love is, to accept who you are nonetheless and love yourself for the rest of your life.

© Sandhya Suri